I had to re-invent myself when I was a lone parent. I realised that if I was a man, and I dated me, Bunmi Ajai, I would take Bunmi Ajai for granted as she was timid, insecure and a doormat. She did not like being disrespected but was too scared to tell off anyone that disrespected her. And because she was insecure, it was very easy to take her for granted. She would not object anyway. I had to change all that so as to stop attracting negativity and start letting positive vibes into my life.